As I look back on my life and my peers, I’ve realized that a guy’s emotional perspective for romantic relationships follow three main paths. On the first road, he may choose to be a pushover or someone’s doormat.
In this scenario, he removes all remnants of his identity, as a way to appease a love interest. He feels this is what people want in the dating pool, so he figuratively removes his spine and politely places it inside your purse. In my experience, I haven’t encountered a woman or girl who actually finds this perspective appealing.
On the second road, you have what many call a dog. This individual is the opposite of a pushover because with him, he’s entirely out for his own benefit. He’s uninterested in your likes and dislikes because in his mind, everything appears insignificant to his wellbeing. He’s the kind of guy you wouldn’t wish upon your worst enemy.
We then get to the third route. In my opinion, this is one of the most difficult aspects within the human experience. This is where the guy is able to find a balance of sorts, when it involves his relationship perspective. It requires a heightened degree of maturation. After all, it’s a daily process that’ll remain throughout his entire lifetime.
In my opinion, life is about finding a balance. It took me a long time to make this realization. Some guys want to be a dog or a pushover, and that’s their prerogative. I hope they’ll evolve of course, but this is the way of the world. Some people will remain set in their ways regardless of the repercussions surrounding their actions.
It’s easy to fall on opposite ends of any spectrum, but the key and difficulty will arrive upon embracing one’s balance. I’ve been around enough guys to pinpoint the culprit, where a guy will swing to one side of this relationship spectrum, as opposed to figuring out the possibility of a balance.
In my opinion, it comes down to a lack of positive male mentors. We can debate this until the cows come home. However, when a boy learns and takes on the destructive ideas of a male that he wants to emulate, it usually becomes part of his consciousness.
It’s quite difficult to erase this conditioning, but it isn’t impossible. From the onset of the relationship, please be vigilant in understanding which of the three main paths he has decided to follow.