A little story about love…

Love is a very powerful emotion that when used properly it will break chains and mend hearts. I’m sure most of us can recall a few broken hearts and a few warm thoughts of our first love. We anticipate the love from another person and to receive the same love in return. Due to life, love has its ups and downs. The most successful relationships are those who understand the core meaning of love. I’m not a love expert, but I believe love is the ability to give unconditional love. Anything else is not considered love.

In my lifetime I have seen love come and go. My heart was broken a few times and I too broke a few hearts. Through the course of love I have learned to love unconditionally and how to receive love easier than in the past. I first had to love my Creator, who first loved me. In Him I learned to love myself. How can one not love something created by The Most High God? There was a time when I had no idea of how precious His existence was and how precious I am in His eyes. I looked at the worst of me instead of the best of me so it was impossible to see why I was capable of being loved. I realize many people do the same in their relationships. They look at the worst circumstances and all the flaws instead of meditating on the beauty; they meditate on the ugly, which causes love to die. Just think how exciting and peaceful your relationship can be when you focus on the beauty and allow love to grow and mature. Just like any living thing, love needs to be fed or it will starve to death.

Love is a gift not a heavy burden. So, love the one you are with and cherish the beautiful moments. Allow the love to grow and not die. Love yourself in the same manner and watch your life prosper in love. If you find this to become impossible seek the love of God to led you. After all He is the Creator of love and He commands us to love. I’m sure the love He commands of us is not conditional. The more you love the easier it will become to love those who are the hardest to love. Be kind. Be patient. Be gentle. Be love.


You Should Be More than Just a Beautiful Face

Throughout my life, I’ve experienced several phases of attraction. For instance, I was quite smitten by older women. Some of the most well-known names include Angela Bassett, Gina Torres, Jennifer Aniston, Oprah, Selma Hayek, Nia Long, Michael Michele, and Lucy Liu.

Halle Berry’s name seems to be on everyone’s list, when the discussion involves attractive female celebrities. Yet, there’s a consistent question people ask about certain celebrity women, due to the nature of their romantic relationships.

“Why would any guy mess up a relationship with someone so attractive?” Pause right there, and think about the question for a moment. A relationship has many variables, but the only one being discussed is physical beauty.

I want to share something in today’s post, which you can reject or reflect on. Try not to focus entirely on this notion of being hot, attractive, sexy, etc. This part of you is a given.

What does this mean? You already know that first impressions are usually based on what people can see, in their decision to determine if they’re attracted to someone or not.

Although I can admit that physical appearance has a role to play in a relationship, I believe too much focus is placed on physicality sometimes. In doing so, you may undermine other key elements that are better representations, in determining the success of a long-term and blissful relationship.

Countless men are physically attracted to Ms. Berry, but she has yet to have a successful relationship. What can this tell you? You can be one of the most physically desired women on the planet, but that alone isn’t enough. There are countless magazines and books telling you how to catch a man, by grabbing his physical attention.

How many of these formats are helping you keep one? You don’t need an expert to tell you that males are visual creatures, and think about sex more than females on average.

Yet, this is what they keep feeding you. Through this conditioning where it emphasizes being physically stunning, many of you will remain relationship malnourished. Why?

It’s not immensely difficult to catch his visual attention. However, it requires something extra on your part, if the goal is to hold his attention beyond sexual stimulation. These formats should focus more on building your personality, how to communicate more effectively, or how to see beyond your perspective in a relationship.

An emotionally mature man will need more than a pretty face, if his objective involves a long-term outlook with you. Always keep in mind that there’s more to you than physical appearance.