Relationships 100

I want to talk about relationships. Yes, that subject. Everybody is talking, asking questions and giving advise. I want to do something similar but I want to speak to your heart. Will you let me? There are some things I feel compelled to tell you.

Relationships matter. They get a little complicated and complex but they are important. Whether they be a romantic, familial or friend-based relationship, they serve an important purpose in our lives. It’s crucial that they’re healthy ones. I have had my share of healthy and unhealthy relationships. I have allowed them too little, and at times, too much importance in my life. I have been blessed and I have been abused by those relationships. I’ve made good choices and I’ve made bad choices. All in all, I have learned how to be a better person. I have also learned to require more from other people.

What are your relationship dynamics like? Do you add to others’ quality of life? Are your relationships based on neediness and what you can get from one another or love, mutual concern and respect? Relationships are tools to help us build, they are not catch-all closets that we dump junk and excess into. Relationships, although challenging sometimes, are designed to make life more fulfilling. A healthy relationship allows opportunity for elevation – not degradation.

How do you know if a relationship is healthy or not? Personally, I like to focus on its effect on my life, on my psyche, on my confidence and its effect on who I am as a person overall. If a relationship is making me uncomfortable, unhappy or makes me feel less of a person then it is not healthy and it is not for me. If the relationship threatens or smothers my individuality then it’s an unhealthy one. If I have to question who I am, it’s a wrap! Consider this: If you cry more than you laugh, there’s a problem. If you fight more than you enjoy their company, then it’s time to walk away. I think you get it. Allow your heart and logic to work together – they will tell you the truth. They will tell you if your life has become more or less than.

Never trade happiness and peace of mind for a relationship, emotional or sexual stimulation, and temporary pacifiers. You are worth more than meaningless relations. You deserve friendship, support, love, loyalty, respect and a sense of family. Never forget it. Take time to evaluate your life and your relationships. You won’t be disappointed.

I’m rooting for you and hoping you’ll root for me, too.

Missy

International Singer and Songwriter Kenya claims #1 spot on UK Soul Chart

Kenya has found a place in the hearts of UK listeners. Her single MakeUSmile, featuring Brandon McKenzie and remixed by Tom Glide, has steadily made its ascension to claim the #1 spot on the UK Soul Chart Top 30 (May 22). Kenya releases music that speaks to the listeners’ being and uplifts.

What sets Kenya apart from other artists is her work ethic. After wrapping up her show at St. James Live in Atlanta (May 13), Kenya continued to reach out to her loyal supporters via her 2016 Social Media Tour: Creating Crimson Conversations. Last Thursday, Kenya’s Twitter Party Finale was a success. Now, she is preparing for The 10 Indie Artist Commandments on Periscope.

While not on the road, Kenya imparts her expertise and experiences through her consulting business, Creating Crimson. As an Independent Artist, Kenya is very serious about education and knowing how to navigate the music industry. On her 2016 Social Media Tour: Creating Crimson Conversations, Kenya with her special Co-Hosts, Lil’ John Roberts, Gwendolyn Collins, William Kurk, LSH Books, Shana Tucker, Kendall Duffie (Kloud 9), Jamal Smallz and DeborahBond, gave their expert advice to those who sought to know more about creating a successful music career. In a fast pace world of constant changes in technology and music, it is most important to stay abreast of what is going on and be willing to invest in yourself as an artist.

Learn more about Kenya and Creating Crimson via their perspective websites. Follow Kenya on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook. Download Kenya’s new album My Own Skin on iTunes and other digital outlets. For more information on Kenya’s upcoming European Tour visit her website.