As Christians we tend to believe every adversity is an opportunity to prove and build our faith. For some this might be true. Your tests and trials are custom made for you. One thing I learned is no matter how much faith I have the obstacles still come. Continue reading “Is it your faith or your authority?”
I am not thrilled with my new driver’s license photo. However, I noticed a difference in my smiles. The photo on the right was taken in 2013. That morning I cried my eyes out. I was not happy and I was distraught in my current situation. Life was crazy and I did not want to take another breath. I was beyond done with life. But through God’s grace and mercy, He blessed me with dear girlfriends that are tried and true. Continue reading “God and good friends”
When people say they are waiting on God 99 percent of the time it is an excuse to stay in their comfort zone. I know. I use to be that person. I sat around for years “waiting on God”. God is not confused or lost, we are. Find your way to the ledge of faith. God is there waiting on you. When you get there smile and take the biggest leap you have never taken before. Trust me. I know, I know Daddy said to trust no man. LOL but this is my testimony so hear me when I say, God will honor your faith leap. He will be right by your side when you jump placing blessing after blessings in your path.
Love is a very powerful emotion that when used properly it will break chains and mend hearts. I’m sure most of us can recall a few broken hearts and a few warm thoughts of our first love. We anticipate the love from another person and to receive the same love in return. Due to life, love has its ups and downs. The most successful relationships are those who understand the core meaning of love. I’m not a love expert, but I believe love is the ability to give unconditional love. Anything else is not considered love.
In my lifetime I have seen love come and go. My heart was broken a few times and I too broke a few hearts. Through the course of love I have learned to love unconditionally and how to receive love easier than in the past. I first had to love my Creator, who first loved me. In Him I learned to love myself. How can one not love something created by The Most High God? There was a time when I had no idea of how precious His existence was and how precious I am in His eyes. I looked at the worst of me instead of the best of me so it was impossible to see why I was capable of being loved. I realize many people do the same in their relationships. They look at the worst circumstances and all the flaws instead of meditating on the beauty; they meditate on the ugly, which causes love to die. Just think how exciting and peaceful your relationship can be when you focus on the beauty and allow love to grow and mature. Just like any living thing, love needs to be fed or it will starve to death.
Love is a gift not a heavy burden. So, love the one you are with and cherish the beautiful moments. Allow the love to grow and not die. Love yourself in the same manner and watch your life prosper in love. If you find this to become impossible seek the love of God to led you. After all He is the Creator of love and He commands us to love. I’m sure the love He commands of us is not conditional. The more you love the easier it will become to love those who are the hardest to love. Be kind. Be patient. Be gentle. Be love.
He approaches me with a grin that is very common on men who are on the prowl. I make a quick decision to entertain him or dismiss the assumed immature pick up line that is soon to follow. It truly amazes me how men in today’s society are completely lacking tact and romance. No brain power or kind efforts are even delivered in most initial approaches. Have women really single-handedly created these monsters?
Some women are lonely and tend to settle for anything men throw their way. Back in the day, women wore their dignity proudly. Today, women are more concerned with “fleeking” out their makeup and weaving it up to gain the most “likes” and whistles. To be honest it appears these women can care less from where the attention comes, just as long as it comes. So they dance and entertain random fools because they are bored or lonely.
There is nothing wrong with being lonely. I myself get lonely at times and find myself entertaining men that are not deserving of my time or energy. The danger in this is cultivating this in your daily life. Dancing with a fool for too long will lead you down a road of disaster and unhappiness. Dancing with a fool may also distract you from accepting a dance from a prince.
We are not doomed if we find ourselves dancing along side the wrong partner. Just don’t stay on the same beat. Quickly change partners even if that partner is yourself. It is ok to be alone. In this time you are exposed to the different layers of yourself. You become more in tune to who you are and what you need versus what you want. Earlier I stated it is ok if you have entertained fools, because there is a lesson to be learned from it. That lesson is usually created to teach you not to settle and introduce you to your worth. Be wise and flow with the process, don’t fight it and get off beat. The best dance is often one that is most emotional and uniquely performed.
So back to this grinning cat who approached me. He walks over to me and asks me to move over. I was blocking his view. The nerve of him!
Do you find yourself stressed and lacking because you gave your all to others? And do you find yourself complaining about it later? Well guess what? Spreading yourself thin is not good for your health and it is not granting you supernatural keys into Heaven. It is a stronghold that you keep allowing in your life and you are the only one to blame, not the ones who constantly asks for help. Let’s be honest, usually People-Pleasers are chronic reward seekers. They are constantly looking for that pat on the back and “job well done” from mere humans. Why? Some find gratification in their squeaky clean reputations while others contribute for religious gratitude.
Well, it’s time to cut that People-Pleasing-spirit loose. It’s not gaining you anything but pain and lack. Most of the time women who are People-Pleasers tend to put their children before their husbands, jobs before their family, friends before themselves. The order is all wrong and God is nowhere in that. But mentally the People-Pleaser thinks they are doing right in God’s eyes. Let me let you in on a little secret. God comes first and everything else follows. If you are married with children your order is as follows: God, husband, children. I know some of you are saying, “where do I come in?” You are taking care of you when you are spending time with God. With Him you are receiving completion.
When we get closer to God, He reveals more of who we are created to be. I find it fulfilling to sit in a quiet space and talk with Him about everything. God is my best friend. He knows everything about me and no one gives better advice. When I wake up in the morning He is the first one I acknowledge. Some people have too many excuses of why they don’t spend time with God. Those are usually the ones stressed out and always trapped in chaos. I’m at my best when I spend the most time with Him. I am more organized, I have better relationships, my business prospers, I am more physically fit, and I feel better about myself. When I steal time from God and give it to others the outcome is never good. Even if that outcome is a slight headache or missed sleep, it’s not good.
Then here comes Jack and Mary, they want to borrow $100, again. Sue wants you to pick her up from work and take her home. And let’s not forget the energy stealers, those who are constantly in the middle of drama and need you to get them back on track. These are the people who never help you or brag about helping you. These are called toxic relationships and I encourage you to clean house immediately. People treat you the way you allow them to treat you. Pray for them and keep it moving. I will leave you with this, when you keep God first you will attract better relationships.
Father, we thank you for your unconditional love and your convicting spirit that alerts us when we are not pleasing in your sight. Show us how to be better in every area of our lives. We want people to see you in us and hear you in us so we decrease ourselves for your glory and your love. Thank you Father that you Reign in our lives and we worship you and not man. In Jesus Name Amen!
What were some of your People-Pleasing experiences? How did you overcome the spirit of being a People-Pleaser? Share with us.
I am honored to be the new Fashion Advisor for MYReporter. Given this opportunity to voice my fashionistic judgement is what every fashionista looks forward to. Granted I believe each person is allotted their own level of fashion sense and no one has the right to tell them if it is right or wrong. But considering the world we live in that is not the case so much. And to be honest, I too pass not so favorable judgement on one’s garb here and there.
I try my best to be fair and see the artistic approach in every detail but some fashion visionists such as Kanye West makes me want to dig deeper in the, “what in the world inspired that?” Well after all fashion is a choice, right? It’s not too often when I see this guy fashionably appealing. He was quoted defending his fashion line saying, “Sweatshirts are important”. Yes, indeed they are Kanye but so are shoe strings but do we prance them down the runway of avant garde? No. As a Designer who grew up with the dream to become a Fashion Designer I find it extremely insulting when a Rapper without the training, the massive student loans, the sewing ability, the countless sweat and tears and an authentic vision produce a fashion show and get center rack in top department stores just because they can pay their way to the top. Instead of using fashion as another revenue stream I would love to see artists such as West show some level of respect for our craft and promote unknown Designers looking for their BIG break.
As a Fashion Contributor, I owe it to my fellow fashion leaders to promote those who are without a voice at this time. We already know the Donna Karens, the Ralph Laurens, and the likes of Kanye Wests. So, there is no need to be another contributor speaking on rerun topics. So, if you are interested in learning more about fashion behind the scenes and meeting Designers who have not yet made it to main stream, you are on the right page. Stay tune!